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Taking this class has taught me so much about the family life. My all time favorite item that we talked about that if your parents growing up weren't the best at parenting together meaning working as a team or just not the best in general then you can change that for your future children. I know that for me I want to change some parenting techniques that my parents did while I was growing up. My parents had 2 different techniques on parenting and only one of them actually worked and the other one just made me fear that parent. The technique that worked for me is the disappointed technique. I will change it a little bit so my children don't feel too bad when they get into trouble. I also really enjoyed learning about the genogram of a family. Like I said in my genogram blog my dad took on a role as father with his siblings and he still has that job today. It's been 22 years since my grandfather passed away and my dad still is taking care of his mother and his sisters. Wh...
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Parenting

All of us have grown up in different ways. Some may have grown up with both parents in the home or even only one parent in the home. Maybe even both parents, but one parent is always out of the house and they only see each other on the weekends. That one would be the hardest for me only seeing one of my parents on the weekend and the other one every single day. I'm going to tell you a little about how I was raised in my home with both my parents. As I've said in may of my other blog posts my dad is a stay at home dad. Growing up my parents had different techniques of talking to the child when they were upset. In class we talked about how parents should punish their child. How children who are talked to calmly rather then being yelled at can be more effective.  Let me tell you that I was yelled at also talked to very calmly and I'd like to say that the calmly talking hit me harder then the yelling, but they both got to me. When I got yelled at it made me fear that parent...
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Fathers

I personally know many families that didn't grow up with a father. Either it was due to a divorce between the parents, the father never knew the child existed or the father just left and never came back. I know that in my father played a huge roll in my family and life growing up. I have an aunt who got a divorce from her husband and she got custody of her two children. The kids were always at my house for summer and everyday after school until my aunt was off work. I don't know for sure, but I think having my dad staying home as a stay at home dad helped one of my cousins (who grew up with no dad) see how he is supposed to act. My dad has taught him many things to fixing his car which my cousin does by himself now! My dad was my cousins roll model of the male figure. In my life though my dad taught me many things too. He didn't teach me how to fix a car even though it would've been fun. Instead my dad taught me the true meaning of a father figure. He taught me how ...
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Communication

There are 5 steps in order to get the right message through to another person. Have you ever sent someone an email or  text message and the other person gets upset because they think you are upset with them, but you aren't and they just read the text wrong? I know that has to happen in a relationship more times then expected. An example that I'm going to go off of this for the steps is...  "Hey, babe just wanted to let you know that I'm not going to be coming home tonight right after work. Tonight my coworkers and I are going out for dinner. I figure it will be fine with you since you went out last night with your coworkers." The 1st step is the disarming technique. Rather than putting up a guard to defend yourself you need to drop that guard and take in all the information that is truth. In our example the truth in is that the other person had gone out the night before with their coworkers so they should be fine that they go out this night. I know a lot of gi...
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Crises

Have you ever had a crises in your family? If you can't think about a crises right now let me tell you what it means to have a crises. A crises normally involves more than one person in the family. I know that when I was having this lesson in class I couldn't think about a crises that I've had in my family, but now that I've had more time to think about it I have thought about a time I had a crises in my family. I've had a lot of crises happen in my life, but I will only tell you about two of them. The first one I'll talk about is when my aunt was getting a divorce from her abusive husband. They had adopted two daughters in 2012 (I believe). My grandparents went to visit my aunt, uncle and kids in Arizona when they lived there. While they were there my aunt had realized that her husband was abusive and she needed to get her and the kids out. My family in Washington was hearing all about what was happening in Arizona and all we could do was send love to my aunt...
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Fidelity

This week I learned a lot of interesting things that I never would've thought about. This might be a touchy subject for some people, but I know that this is also a good subject for people to know. Not a lot of people know about fidelity and I'm here to tell you about it. My teacher told a story about two different couples who used to go running together every morning. Let's call them couple NN and MM. One day the wife of couple N wasn't able to run because she had hurt something and the husband of couple M had responsibilities to take care of. Eventually it was only the husband of N and the wife of M running in the morning. The husband of N started to get excited to go running because he wanted to tell wife M about what happened the day before rather then telling his own wife. He realized what he was doing was bad and he wanted to change. Husband N ended up stop running all together because he thought he was being a bad person to his wife. Advice when it comes to fi...
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Marriage VS. Wedding

I would like you to think about how old you were when you started to think about your wedding day. Many girls about age 12 is when they start to dream about their wedding day, but what's wrong with that is that the marriage continues after the wedding day. The wedding day is just ONE day and marriage is for eternity. Did you know that a typical wedding costs about $27,000 - $38,000? That's a bunch of money that you could be using for something else like your honeymoon, your future children or just to have fun and buy random items you don't need, but want. Save more money on the wedding and spend it on other important things. I know many people in my family that have saved money on their weddings and it was still a very special day. One of the weddings I went to was in the backyard of my grandparents house! All the bride and groom needed to pay for was the chairs that were rented and the arc with flowers on it. The arc you think would've been real expensive, but it r...
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