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Fathers

I personally know many families that didn't grow up with a father. Either it was due to a divorce between the parents, the father never knew the child existed or the father just left and never came back. I know that in my father played a huge roll in my family and life growing up.

I have an aunt who got a divorce from her husband and she got custody of her two children. The kids were always at my house for summer and everyday after school until my aunt was off work. I don't know for sure, but I think having my dad staying home as a stay at home dad helped one of my cousins (who grew up with no dad) see how he is supposed to act.

My dad has taught him many things to fixing his car which my cousin does by himself now! My dad was my cousins roll model of the male figure. In my life though my dad taught me many things too. He didn't teach me how to fix a car even though it would've been fun. Instead my dad taught me the true meaning of a father figure. He taught me how I was supposed to be treated by men.

My parents never showed affection towards each other like ever. My father would buy my mother some things for her birthday or their anniversary even if my mother told him not to get her anything. My father knew for a fact that even if the gift is small at least my mother knows that he's thinking about her and getting her things even when told not to.

Ever since I can remember my dad always called me Princess. When I hit the age when I could start dating (16) my dad told me "Remember you deserve a guy who treats you like a Princess just like I do" He even told me that again when I went off to college. When I left for college he also told me "You're not here for a Miss Degree. Unless the guy is almost done with school, has a job lined up and he has a nice car." I was laughing so hard at my dad because in my family I would rather go shopping for cars then shopping for actual clothes. I grew up with 5 guys in my house so I learned to enjoy cars and appreciate everyone of them. I learned the model and brands of cars because of them.

Now I know not everyone has a stay at home dad, but even when your dad comes home from work make a conversation with him so you guys can gain a relationship. I know that girls that don't have a relationship with their dads are 7 times more likely to get pregnant as a teenager. The dad could still be inside the home and the daughter have no relationship with him then she's more likely to have a child as a teenager then her other friends that have dads and a relationship with them.

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