All of us have grown up in different ways. Some may have grown up with both parents in the home or even only one parent in the home. Maybe even both parents, but one parent is always out of the house and they only see each other on the weekends. That one would be the hardest for me only seeing one of my parents on the weekend and the other one every single day.
I'm going to tell you a little about how I was raised in my home with both my parents. As I've said in may of my other blog posts my dad is a stay at home dad. Growing up my parents had different techniques of talking to the child when they were upset.
In class we talked about how parents should punish their child. How children who are talked to calmly rather then being yelled at can be more effective. Let me tell you that I was yelled at also talked to very calmly and I'd like to say that the calmly talking hit me harder then the yelling, but they both got to me. When I got yelled at it made me fear that parent more then the other which also made me want to go to the other parent rather then the parent who yells at me in fear of being yelled at.
When I was in the 7th grade and also freshman year of high school I wasn't do too good in school. I wasn't failing all of my classes, but I had 1 or 2 F's in my classes. My parents found out and were upset at me because I didn't tell them and they had to find out from my coach on the reason I didn't play in my game. When I got home that night my parents had a talk with me. I got yelled at by one parent and when that parent was done yelling my other parent just talked to me calmly and told me how disappointed they were.
Growing up with both of the kinds of punishers I'll like to say that the calm talking to the child about how you feel is more effective then being yelled at. The way you word your sentences to your child talking to them about how you feel when they do a certain thing can leave a big affect on that child and they wouldn't want you to feel like that again.
I know that when I have children of my own I want to have an amazing relationship with them not just when their children, but especially when they are teenagers and doing all the changing. In order to have a good relationship I have to gain my children's trust from a young age that they can come to me for anything without me getting upset. I'll listen to what they have to say and when their finished I'll just calmly talk to them just like how my one parent did to me.
I'm going to tell you a little about how I was raised in my home with both my parents. As I've said in may of my other blog posts my dad is a stay at home dad. Growing up my parents had different techniques of talking to the child when they were upset.
In class we talked about how parents should punish their child. How children who are talked to calmly rather then being yelled at can be more effective. Let me tell you that I was yelled at also talked to very calmly and I'd like to say that the calmly talking hit me harder then the yelling, but they both got to me. When I got yelled at it made me fear that parent more then the other which also made me want to go to the other parent rather then the parent who yells at me in fear of being yelled at.
When I was in the 7th grade and also freshman year of high school I wasn't do too good in school. I wasn't failing all of my classes, but I had 1 or 2 F's in my classes. My parents found out and were upset at me because I didn't tell them and they had to find out from my coach on the reason I didn't play in my game. When I got home that night my parents had a talk with me. I got yelled at by one parent and when that parent was done yelling my other parent just talked to me calmly and told me how disappointed they were.
Growing up with both of the kinds of punishers I'll like to say that the calm talking to the child about how you feel is more effective then being yelled at. The way you word your sentences to your child talking to them about how you feel when they do a certain thing can leave a big affect on that child and they wouldn't want you to feel like that again.
I know that when I have children of my own I want to have an amazing relationship with them not just when their children, but especially when they are teenagers and doing all the changing. In order to have a good relationship I have to gain my children's trust from a young age that they can come to me for anything without me getting upset. I'll listen to what they have to say and when their finished I'll just calmly talk to them just like how my one parent did to me.
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