I would like you to think about how old you were when you started to think about your wedding day. Many girls about age 12 is when they start to dream about their wedding day, but what's wrong with that is that the marriage continues after the wedding day.
The wedding day is just ONE day and marriage is for eternity. Did you know that a typical wedding costs about $27,000 - $38,000? That's a bunch of money that you could be using for something else like your honeymoon, your future children or just to have fun and buy random items you don't need, but want. Save more money on the wedding and spend it on other important things.
I know many people in my family that have saved money on their weddings and it was still a very special day. One of the weddings I went to was in the backyard of my grandparents house! All the bride and groom needed to pay for was the chairs that were rented and the arc with flowers on it. The arc you think would've been real expensive, but it really wasn't because it was from Walmart and the flowers were from the Dollar Store.
The reception was at the church building and the decorations that had been set up were beautiful. They still didn't cost much because they almost all come from the Dollar Store and Walmart and were put together by some of my family members. The food when the bride and groom sent out their invitations put in a piece of paper that asked that certain person to bring a certain food that was on the piece of paper. Everyone brought what they were asked to bring which was nice and inexpensive.
Think through your wedding before you spend too much money that you don't need to spend. Talk with your fiancé and get them involved with the wedding planning. It's not just the brides special day, but the happy couple that just got married as husband and wife.
Before the wedding day you need to talk with your fiancé about the future. Not just about the wedding that is coming up, but what's going to happen once you are married. Are you both going to keep working or going to school or is one of you going to go to school and the other just work full time? When are you going to have children? I know they say don't pray or go to the temple with your fiancé or even a boyfriend/girlfriend because you might get mixed messages from God. You should at least pray to God by yourselves (separately) asking Him these questions and then going back to your fiancé and tell them what you felt.
Once you are married though don't take advice from the people around you that are married. The only people who need to be making decisions in your marriage is you, your spouse and God. God always needs to be involved in your marriage to make it a healthy and strong one.
Woman I would like to talk to you real quick. When you are expecting your first child with your husband don't disclose your husband from the journey that you are going through. Involve him in the ultra-sound appointments, when the baby kicks and most of all involve him in the birthing process. Don't have anyone else in the delivery room other than the doctors and your husband. When your mother and/or sisters are there in the delivery room when the child is born the husband doesn't feel special or involved because you have all your attention on your mother/sisters during the time you and your husband should be together enjoying the process together as "one".
The wedding day is just ONE day and marriage is for eternity. Did you know that a typical wedding costs about $27,000 - $38,000? That's a bunch of money that you could be using for something else like your honeymoon, your future children or just to have fun and buy random items you don't need, but want. Save more money on the wedding and spend it on other important things.
I know many people in my family that have saved money on their weddings and it was still a very special day. One of the weddings I went to was in the backyard of my grandparents house! All the bride and groom needed to pay for was the chairs that were rented and the arc with flowers on it. The arc you think would've been real expensive, but it really wasn't because it was from Walmart and the flowers were from the Dollar Store.
The reception was at the church building and the decorations that had been set up were beautiful. They still didn't cost much because they almost all come from the Dollar Store and Walmart and were put together by some of my family members. The food when the bride and groom sent out their invitations put in a piece of paper that asked that certain person to bring a certain food that was on the piece of paper. Everyone brought what they were asked to bring which was nice and inexpensive.
Think through your wedding before you spend too much money that you don't need to spend. Talk with your fiancé and get them involved with the wedding planning. It's not just the brides special day, but the happy couple that just got married as husband and wife.
Before the wedding day you need to talk with your fiancé about the future. Not just about the wedding that is coming up, but what's going to happen once you are married. Are you both going to keep working or going to school or is one of you going to go to school and the other just work full time? When are you going to have children? I know they say don't pray or go to the temple with your fiancé or even a boyfriend/girlfriend because you might get mixed messages from God. You should at least pray to God by yourselves (separately) asking Him these questions and then going back to your fiancé and tell them what you felt.
Once you are married though don't take advice from the people around you that are married. The only people who need to be making decisions in your marriage is you, your spouse and God. God always needs to be involved in your marriage to make it a healthy and strong one.
Woman I would like to talk to you real quick. When you are expecting your first child with your husband don't disclose your husband from the journey that you are going through. Involve him in the ultra-sound appointments, when the baby kicks and most of all involve him in the birthing process. Don't have anyone else in the delivery room other than the doctors and your husband. When your mother and/or sisters are there in the delivery room when the child is born the husband doesn't feel special or involved because you have all your attention on your mother/sisters during the time you and your husband should be together enjoying the process together as "one".
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