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Have you ever been judged by people around you by the things that you wear, dress or the things you own? I have in my life. I've had friends while here at college ask if my family is rich. The reason they ask is because my parents pay my tuition for school and also some of the things that I own. I just tell them that my parents work really hard and when they found out they were starting a family they set money to the side for each of us kids every year.

People don't understand that not everyone is rich or has money even though they look and act like they do have money. I've known many people in my life that dress and act professionally, but actually are in the low middle class. People around them would guess that they were in the upper middle class or the low upper class.

I watched a video that shared a story about a lady named Tammy and how she lived. She was in the lowest class (poor) and her oldest son wasn't loving that class. He was always trying the dress differently than his mother and his brother. They lived in a trailer and the son was embarrassed about that and said that he would never let his friends over to his house because he was really embarrassed by where he lived. That to me is just really an ungrateful person. If your mother goes to work every single day to pay the bills and provide for her family and also be a mother/father. Tammy walks 10.5 miles to work everyday even though there is a car in the driveway. Tammy explained that the car didn't work and she didn't have enough money to fix it.

There was another video that I watched that showed a wife and husband talking about how the wife grew up on the rich side of town and the husband grew up on the poor side of town (they were both rich though) The wife wanted the husband to change where he grew up to put on the wedding invitations because she was embarrassed by where he grew up. The husband didn't like that idea because he loved where he grew up because that was his life so he said that wasn't going to happen. I wasn't a big fan of that video because that's just messed up. If my future husband had said that to me I wouldn't have been very happy and would have rethought my future marriage to that person. That's already starting off a marriage in a terrible way because one of the spouses is embarrassed about where the other had grown up and that isn't the healthiest relationship.

I would just like to say that I know that people are going to judge people around them, but they shouldn't be mean about it and shouldn't be embarrassed by where they grew up. You should be proud of where you come from and appreciate your parents that gave you those opportunities. I appreciate those opportunities that my parents gave me and I don't feel embarrassed by the things I wasn't able to do because my parents gave me so much and I appreciate everything that my parents do for me and my siblings.

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