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The Family

In the 2nd week of Family Relations class we talked about the different positions on family. I learned that the average marriage age for LDS people is 24,26, but if they aren't LDS it's 28,30. These numbers really surprised me because I'm a LDS person and I have seen many friends or family around me getting married before the average marriage age both for the world and LDS. Even family and friends that aren't members are getting married before the average age. Another one that really surprised me was that Co-habitation is going up while the marriage is going down. I know many people who are co-habituating as well. Some of them are engaged and others are just living together. Majority of them have kids with each other which isn't always the best because if they decide they don't want to be together anymore than the kids will be have to be living every other week or weekend with the other parent if they get joint custody. Which isn't the best on the kids because then they grow up living in two different homes and that can be stressful on the kids and confusing as well if they are too young. 

We watched a video that talked about a book called "The Population Bomb" that came out during the baby boom generation. It was talking about how we should be scared to have children because the earth can only have so many people in the world at a time. It talked about starvation happening in the 70's which didn't happen until later. It also talked about there was going to be no more oil in the 80's which once again didn't happen, but people still read this book and are scared of bringing kids into the world because of everything that could happen.

I really enjoyed when my professor asked the woman in the class what it was like growing up with brothers in the house and how it shaped them. I have all brothers as siblings and growing up with them showed me how a man should act and how I should be treated. These things I hadn't realize I had learned from them until my professor asked this question because it made me really think about my siblings and the good things. My brothers and I weren't always the closest of siblings until we all started getting lives and moving out of the house into the real world. I saw all my brothers leave in a space of 6 months either marriage, mission or college. I was the last one left at home and I was lonely without them so I would just text or call my brother at college. 

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